
IDOLATRY
[3] “You shall have no other gods before me.
(Exodus 20:3 ESV)
Over the 5 years I have been a Pastor, I’ve had the chance to counsel many a Mom about, well, being a Mom. In that time, I’ve come to see 4 kinds of struggles they tend to have (Pride, Denial, Guilt and one more added since this last Sunday: Smothering). Throughout this week, I’ll address each one of them individually, but today I’d just like to spend some time on the root of all these “Mommy struggles.”

For many Mothers the number one hurdle they face is not worry or doubt. Nor is it the need to be in control. These and the various other struggles are all symptoms of a greater problem which is….Idolatry. Yup, that’s right. In my counseling, the number one issue that governs all other struggles for Moms is Idolatry (to be fair, that I think is the number one struggle for every human being!). Now, surely there are many forms to the Idolatry a Mom can take on, but make no mistake about it, Idolatry is there.
What is Idolatry? Simply put by Luther in his Large Catechism (reflecting on the 1st commandment):
“You are to have no other gods.”
That is, you are to regard me alone as your God. What does this mean, and how is it to be understood? What does “to have a god” mean, or what is God?
Answer: A “god” is the term for that to which we are to look for all good and in which we are to find refuge in all need. Therefore, to have a god is nothing else than to trust and believe in that one with your whole heart. As I have often said, it is the trust and faith of the heart alone that make both God and an idol. If your faith and trust are right, then your God is the true one. Conversely, where your trust is false and wrong, there you do not have the true God. For these two belong together, faith and God. Anything on which your heart relies and depends, I say, that is really your God.
So idolatry is not necessarily bowing down to a statue, but it is bowing down in your heart to anything other than the true God. Intellectually many Mother’s might say that Jesus is their God, but functionally, (the way they live) their god is often their children.

If a Mom boasts in her heart about her Mommy-ing than her Motherly abilities have become an Idol (that thing which “her heart relies and depends on” for comfort and reassurance). Why? Because she fails to recognize the true God as the giver of her abilities.
If a Mom is in denial, not able to admit her children’s faults, then her false, imagined picture of her children has become an Idol (because the true God calls us to complete transparency and honesty).
If a Mom is weighed down by guilt over her parenting failures, then even that has become an idol! Why? Because the Scriptures make clear that the true God grants you forgiveness through Jesus Christ’s perfect life, death and resurrection.
If a Mom smothers her kids, (needing to constantly hover over them, never allowing them to go out, never allowing them to make their own decisions as they grow older, etc.) that too shows an Idol. Her kid’s “safety” and “preservation” from the cold harsh world is a good thing. But she has made it into a God thing, and that’s a Bad thing (Ironically, it is those Mothers that attempt to smother the most, whose kids run away from them as fast as they can. In response the Mother attempts to smother more, and the child runs further and further away. In response, once these Mothers feel they have “not been appreciated enough” by their kids they will often become very scornful to their children, not wanting anything to do with their perceived ingratitude. Idols always take us through a vicious cycle like this: The more we serve them, the more they beat us down into the ground.)
And the list could go on and on, of ways we all find ourselves serving Idols. And this isn’t unusual or unexpected. We were, after all, made to worship. It was Calvin who rightly said,
The human heart is an idol factory
But in recognizing this, we are given opportunity. In seeing our idols for what they are, we don’t have to pretend we don’t have them (as we’re naturally prone to do). Rather we can confess them to the one true God, receive forgiveness through Christ for our sin, and seek His strength to “rely and depend” on Him alone for our comfort.

Tomorrow, we’ll talk about the characteristics of a Proud Mommy and see what God’s answer to that problem is….
Soli Deo Gloria,
Pastor Erick